Why My Generation Is Entirely Unreliable

We have all been there. Waiting at the bar, restaurant, or coffee shop when we receive that text:

Sorry, I’m not going to make it

This could be from a dating prospect, a friend, hell even an interview. It happens so frequently that now you aren’t even “allowed” to be disappointed when someone flakes. We have become a culture where an RSVP means little more than — I saw the invite. And while somehow we have collectively agreed that this behavior is passable, I would like to venture that this shouldn’t be acceptable. As we all know, time is a limited resource. We should treat each other’s time with value.

Why is this a phenomenon of our generation?

I blame text messages. I blame social media. I blame cell phones.

How is this hurting us?

We no longer are trusted to be held accountable. Coworkers and acquaintances outside of our generation expect less of us. Everyone has come to expect tardiness and has come to expect disappointment. But don’t we want to be relied on? Don’t we want that respect?

How can we be better?

If we aim to be someone that is depended on, we need to be dependable. That means that if there is an agreed time of meeting, we should strive to be early. A phrase I heard from my father at a young age was, “If you’re not 15 minutes early, you’re late”. People of our generation at large are never early. The idea of being early, for millennial’s, comes off as being overly eager or even desperate. But we are wrong. We need to be dependable, and we need to be able to depend on one another.

Programmer — Writer. @andyhartnett12

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